And can I say, girls are too nice? What do I mean? I mean how they are too nice to say no...so they end up cancelling stuff after you've made plans. I don't know why they do it. In an effort to not hurt anyone's feelings they make it worst. I know. This is the second time it's happened, which, considering everything, isn't bad at all. But it's annoying, and it still hurts. Not fun. I mean, why can't they just say "no"?
When a guy is looking for a girl, it's kinda like going to a fast food restaurant. We look at our choices, and we decide. If we had an experience we liked before, we usually don't vary much and order the same thing. We're visual too so the menu helps. Even the simplest menu items can hook us for years, but if we're not sold on a particular item we will probably not ever touch it unless there is nothing else to eat. Or we had a bad experience that leads Usher to sing this. It's hard to get us hooked, but once we're hooked we're hooked.
Girls are more selective. Nature intends them to be that way. With a girl, it's like a job interview. Most of the times, the guys come to them looking for a "job" unless there's a candidate out there with such outstanding credentials that they have to make the first move. The good thing about the interview is that it looks at a person for their overall strength and not just on one characteristic alone, say, good looks. So a guy who may not be all that in the looks department has a chance if his humor, hygiene, personality, ambition, and other things are pretty good. The downside is... it makes it that much more harder to pass the initial interview when the selection process is much more complicated than choosing a big Mac. You got to have the grades, the test scores, the athletics, the extracurricular activities, the service, the experience, and so on. And that's just the initial interview to get to the next round! Only when the girl is sure that you're the most qualified person for the job do you get through. And the process can take awhile.
I also realized why some of my friendships with girls fade so fast (especially when they get a boyfriend). With many of my female friends we talk a lot about the opposite gender, gossip, and things like that. Girl talk actually. So when they get a boyfriend, all of a sudden it's like that person disappears off the planet. I can probably predict who will be like that when it happens to her.
On the other hand, there are some people that I will protect fiercely if it ever came down to it. People like my family, and close friends. But also friends like Asia. We really don't have that much in common besides a mutual interest in books, theater, and some bands. But that's about it. But she's such a genuine, awesome person that I just want to see them succeed and be happy. Another person who fell into that category recently is Shalise and her brother. They are awesome awesome people.
Anyway. Like I said, it's been a crazy and rather depressing week, but hey, things will be all right. Always.
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